When Your Pain Became My WorldPart 2: Reclaiming the Self After Emotional Ruin9️⃣ The Hidden Cost of Loving Too DeeplyIn Part 1, we explored how empathy can slowly transform into self-erasure. Now we must ask a deeper question:Why do some people lose themselves completely in love?The answer often lies in unconscious fears.Many individuals who over-give in relationships struggle with:Fear of abandonment
đŋ When Your Pain Became My World Part 2: Reclaiming the Self After Emotional Ruin 9️⃣ The Hidden Cost of Loving Too Deeply In Part 1, we explored how empathy can slowly transform into self-erasure. Now we must ask a deeper question: Why do some people lose themselves completely in love? The answer often lies in unconscious fears. Many individuals who over-give in relationships struggle with: Fear of abandonment Fear of being “not enough” A need for validation Childhood emotional neglect When someone feels another’s pain intensely, it may not only be compassion — it may also be a subconscious attempt to secure love. If I heal you, you won’t leave me. If I sacrifice enough, I will be worthy. But love built on fear cannot sustain identity. đ Codependency: When Care Becomes Control There is a psychological term for this dynamic: codependency. Codependency occurs when: One person’s identity revolves around fixing or saving the other. Emotional boundaries disappear. Self-worth ...