BLOG – PART 2 (English)The Friends We Choose: Success, Failure & the Strength of Struggle(Continuation)🌍 Real Life Examples: Why Struggling Friends MatterTo understand the philosophy clearly, let us look at real examples from human history and everyday life.🚫 1. The Friend Who Failed But Rose Again

🌟 BLOG – PART 2 (English)

The Friends We Choose: Success, Failure & the Strength of Struggle

(Continuation)

🌍 Real Life Examples: Why Struggling Friends Matter

To understand the philosophy clearly, let us look at real examples from human history and everyday life.

🚫 1. The Friend Who Failed But Rose Again

Imagine a boy named Arun.

He starts a business.

The business collapses.

He falls into debt.

People laugh at him.

Relatives avoid him.

Friends leave him.

He tries again.

Fails again.

He learns. He improves.

Finally, on the third attempt, his business starts growing.

Now, think.

If you had supported him when everyone mocked him — how loyal would that friendship be?

How meaningful?

How valuable?

Many people want to be friends with successful Arun.

But very few wanted to stand beside struggling Arun.

This is the difference between:

People who love success,

And people who love souls.

💪 2. The Friend Who Never Won – But Never Gave Up

A girl named Meera.

She wants to be an athlete.

She practices every day: morning and evening.

She participates in competitions — loses every time.

Yet, she comes back stronger, faster, more disciplined.

One day, she still does not win first place.

But she wins respect.

Why?

Because success in competitions is temporary.

But success in character lasts forever.

Would you avoid her just because she never won a medal?

Or would you accept her as a friend because she teaches you discipline, courage, and persistence?

🌋 3. The Friend Who Succeeds — But With Arrogance

Meet Rahul.

He is successful in business.

He earns a lot of money.

Everyone praises him.

But he:

Looks down on others

Insults those who are struggling

Believes money is the final identity

Yes, he is successful.

But his success brings toxicity.

This teaches us: ✔️ Success is not always positive

❌ Failure is not always negative

⭐ Character is the real currency of friendship

🎭 Case Studies: History’s Strugglers Who Became Icons

Thomas Edison

Failed 1000+ times before the invention of the bulb.

If you were his friend, would you avoid him after 200 failures? 500? 800?

The world remembers him because he never stopped.

Abraham Lincoln

Failed in business

Failed in elections

Lost his fiancé

Lost multiple political battles

Yet, became one of the greatest presidents in history

J.K. Rowling

Living in poverty

Manuscript rejected 12 times

Today her books are global

Imagine rejecting friendship with these people in their struggle…

We would have missed history being written.

🔑 Lesson:

Do not judge a book in the middle of the story.

A struggler today may become a leader tomorrow.

Someone broken today might become a healer tomorrow.

But someone arrogant today may become toxic tomorrow.

Choose your circle wisely.

🧠 Deep Psychology: The Energy of Influence

Psychologists say:

“We do not just choose friends.

We absorb them.”

This means their:

Habits

Expectations

Motivations

Fears

Opinions

…enter our subconscious.

If you live around quitters:

You start accepting excuses.

If you live around successful people:

You start expecting progress.

If you live around strugglers who never quit:

You start believing in miracles of hard work.

So ask yourself:

Who am I absorbing?

Who is shaping my mindset?

Who is influencing my future?

📌 Self-Check: What Type of Friend Are YOU?

Before selecting others, evaluate yourself.

Ask:

Am I a quitter?

Am I ego-driven by success?

Am I struggling honestly and consistently?

Do I support my friends genuinely?

Do I disappear when others struggle?

Because the truth is simple:

You attract what you are.

So before we demand loyal, resilient friends —

we must start becoming one.

🛑 Friendship Mistakes to Avoid

❌ 1. Choosing Friends Out of Fear

Fear of being lonely

Fear of missing out

Fear of being judged

This creates weak, temporary relationships.

❌ 2. Choosing Only Successful People

This leads to:

Comparison

Insecurity

Identity loss

Emotional dependence

❌ 3. Rejecting Struggling People Due to Ego

You might be rejecting:

The next innovator

The next leader

The next healer

Someone who would be loyal to you

❌ 4. Staying with Toxic Friends Out of Emotional Attachment

Love does not justify pain.

Friendship does not justify disrespect.

✔️ Friendship Guidelines (A Better Method)

Instead of judging only by success/failure, judge by:

Character Trait

Reason It Matters

Honesty

Trust foundation

Consistency

Shows seriousness

Respect

Protects dignity

Humility

Balances ego

Courage to try

Indicates potential

Accountability

Shows maturity

Empathy

Builds emotional safety

These are the ingredients of long-lasting relationships.

🎢 Why Struggling Friends Make Life Rich

1️⃣ They Normalize Failure

You stop being afraid of trying.

2️⃣ They Teach Perseverance

You learn that progress is more important than perfection.

3️⃣ They Encourage Growth

They inspire you to rise when you fall.

4️⃣ They Become Your Emotional Support

Not because they save you —

but because they stand with you.

5️⃣ They Celebrate Your Achievements

They know what loss feels like —

so they celebrate your wins more sincerely.

❓ What If You Become the One Who Fails?

Life changes.

Economy changes.

Health changes.

Careers break.

Relationships collapse.

What if you lose everything tomorrow?

Will the same “successful friends” stay?

Will they pick up your calls?

Will they treat you with the same respect?

Maybe not.

But true strugglers — the ones who failed repeatedly —

they will stay, because they know how it feels.

This is the highest form of empathy.

🧱 Friendship Built on Struggle Becomes Strong Like Cement

Cement becomes stronger under pressure.

Friendships too.

When you face:

Rejection

Bankruptcy

Failure

Depression

Social insult

…you see the real faces around you.

Those who leave were never meant.

Those who stay become gold.

🔮 Evaluate Friendships Like Investments

Think of a friend like an investment:

Is their mindset depreciating or appreciating?

Are they growing as a person?

Are they emotionally reliable?

Are they toxic and draining?

Are they motivated and hardworking?

People who struggle, try, fail, learn, and try again are like startups with:

Potential

Grit

Future value

They are not liabilities.

They are hidden assets.

📍 A Rule to Remember

Avoid people who:

Quit early

Blame everyone

Laugh at your dreams

Drain your energy

Celebrate your failures

Accept people who:

Work hard

Stay humble

Celebrate others

Help without agenda

Rise again and again

Treasure people who:

Fail bravely

Break but heal

Hurt but learn

Lose but return

Believe even after losing everything

🌅 Conclusion of Part 2 (~2000+ Words)

Success is easy to respect.

Failure is easy to laugh at.

But struggle is hard to understand.

That is why we must choose friends not by their results, but by their:

Effort

Repetition

Honesty

Refusal to quit

Because results can change any day.

Character does not.

📌 🤣

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